10 ways to pick up a woman

Approaching the ten(10 meaning she’s one hot mama!!)

Be relaxed in your approach

OK, so she’s a 10. But you’re not a bad catch yourself, champ. Confidence is an important facet of any approach, but it’s especially crucial when approaching the intimidating 10. She’s likely well aware of her appeal, and she has certainly seen her share of stammering, fidgeting would-be suitors. While the charming befuddlement of a Hugh Grant is often quite effective, let’s bypass that route and center on a stable, calm and secure front. Remember: The courtship process involves two people. While you’re attempting to deal with her significant physical appeal, she’s sizing you up as well, and chances are that she’s become quite skilled at weighing and measuring.

Some don’ts to remember: Don’t quickly offer to buy her a drink, don’t hesitate to respond too often, don’t let your eyes dart around the room, and don’t fixate on the safe spot three inches in front of your shoes. You’re probably aware of these obvious tips, but the hottest of the hot can have bizarre effects on a man. Sometimes, her beauty can even render all your experience and training useless, simply because your mind is clouded with her very image. Whatever you do, maintain your dignity and confidence, speak lightly, settle yourself in a comfortable position, meet her eyes every once in a while during conversation, and feel free to crack a joke or two. Just relax and be… well, normal.

Don’t let her beauty intimidate

Let’s face it, approaching a 10 is risky business even for the accomplished Player. For a normal guy, it’s downright terrifying. Take advantage of your own courage and realize that you’re probably one of a very small handful that would chance an approach. Logically — and mathematically — speaking, if most men look at her and say, “Yeah, right,” then your chances greatly increase. Now calculate the number of men who actually made the nerve-wracking trek across the room and impressed her. Probably not that many. If you take all of this into consideration, and factor in your own finely honed flirting ability, it becomes surprisingly clear that you’re in a darn good position. Granted, this may not ensure an easier encounter, but it gives you a definite edge. Don’t forget to recognize the embarrassing fact that many men are petrified of beautiful women.

The benefit of having a hot wingwoman and how to properly ignore a 10’s looks… Of course, even the Player is human, so don’t kid yourself into thinking her beauty has no effect whatsoever. There are, however, a variety of ways to overcome the potential intimidation obstacle. First, take solace in the fact that you have plenty of experience in approaching women. You’re better equipped to handle the situation than most. Second, the competent lady’s man understands an initial rejection isn’t the end of the world, and follow-up opportunities may present themselves in the future. Third, this isn’t an all-or-nothing scenario — you can always fall back on an 8 or 9 without much difficulty.

Use a hot wingwoman

If you can prove that you’ve already conquered the 10 challenge — or if you can at least make it appear as though you have — you’re halfway to success. Women are social creatures and often take note of how their peers respond to men. Therefore, if they see you with a lady of equal hotness, and that lady has nothing but glowing praise for the man by her side (that’s you, genius), then you’ve got a foot in the door. Perhaps you may recall George Costanza’s theory of the “forbidden city,” and once his “hand was stamped,” he could “come and go as he pleased.” Despite being part of a fictional storyline, the true Player understands that philosophy holds more water than people typically believe. So, if you have a particularly stunning acquaintance who would be willing to support you in your endeavor, you should enlist her help. Just don’t select an ex; she may initially go along with it, but resort to malicious sabotage at exactly the wrong time.

It is important that your wingwoman doesn’t stick around for very long. Once your foot is in the door, you don’t need any help to push it open. She should, however, pop up to offer some details or anecdotes that make you look good, make it clear that she is not with you, and then recede into the shadows. With the right woman and the correct timing, this has a great chance of working beautifully.

Talk about everything but her looks

Don’t make the mistake of addressing her looks in any way. Many guys love to play the indifference card in regards to a lady’s attractiveness, and while that can be useful in some cases, it’s counterproductive here. In other words, your opening line absolutely can not be, “Yeah, you probably think I only care about how you look. I’m not like that.” Attempting to convince her that you’re uninterested in her body is juvenile and insulting; almost more so than just saying, “Damn, you’re hot.” You know you care about her hotness. She knows you care. Just don’t make it a topic of conversation for any reason. There are plenty of other topics under the sun to choose from to kick things off, but be sure that you don’t venture into uncharted waters with unfamiliar subjects. It’s a bad idea to take the chance.

How to be coy and not a jerk… And on the flip side, don’t go gush about how great her personality is. All that does is reinforce a clear attempt at ignoring her good looks. So the “Wow, you have beautiful eyes” and the “Hey, you’re really funny,” remarks don’t have a place in this approach (unless she just told you a joke that was actually funny). She’s probably not an insecure individual, and she’s probably heard every form of flattery known to man or hot women. Don’t waste her time, and stay focused on a discussion that might have some real substance.

Approach her in an atypical way

This woman isn’t typical, so it might be a good idea to disregard typical approach methods. You might want to consider a negative hit, which is a more detached, perhaps even critical, approach. A 10 has heard just about every nice comment there is, so put her off guard with something she’s never heard before, such as “You know, you shouldn’t wear so much eyeliner.” The negative hit allows you to tilt the tables a bit and, hopefully, she’ll come back over the top at you. We all want people to like us. You’re not there to be insulting or offensive, but you’re not fawning, and for some reason, you’re not as “gaga” as the other guys. You also frowned at her joke that you didn’t find funny. This behavior might elicit a positive reaction from a 10.

Just keep a careful eye on your progress. If the somewhat dour demeanor isn’t having the desired effect, and she’s simply getting disgusted rather than interested, you need to regroup and try another tactic. Most importantly, the key to the negative hit is to spot any generated interest and cultivate it. In other words, you can’t be tossing the “negatives” in the face of returned intrigue; you need to respond with a small yet appropriate level of warmth. A wry smile or a chuckle lets her know she’s getting through to you.

landing the perfect 10

The 10 is a rare and beautiful thing; you need to treat it with the respect it deserves. While it’s a definite challenge, deep down, you should recognize it’s the Player’s chance to truly shine. It’s as if all your prior conquests were nothing more than training for the very moment you approach a 10, and even then, you might have to employ a variety of new tactics. Provided that you’re open to a fresh set of maneuvers, and you remain confident in your abilities, that luscious lady may soon represent a crowning achievement.

Filipino’s can you really speak your language?

I noticed that the Philippine media are kinda irresponsible with the words they are using. Some of them don’t know how to speak in filipino. Most people here in the Philippines are now speaking taglish or tagalog english i like to call them coniotic people, first of all I’m not an english major or something like that, i don’t think that you need to be an english major just to notice the way they speak is totally wrong..

On T.V. while i watch the news i also noticed that some newscasters and on the radio some broadcasters are also doing the same. I know that those people knows how to speak english very well but i also know that they are not speaking proper english.

I have nothing against the people who speaks taglish but i just wanted to tell everybody what i think about poeple who speaks like them, i mean u speak like that as well but i only do it to make fun of people that speaks like that frequently.

I think for other people if they speak like that it means they are on the upper class of the community.. i guess there’s a social thingy(hmm.. i wonder whats that thingy) attached to it.

I remember when i was a kid i used to watch Sesame Street if i wanted to learn the english language and then i would also watch Batibot if i wanted tolearn how to count or speak proper filipino.

nowadays people watch too much anime or cartoons and they don’t pay attention to educational shows (^^,).

hmm.. i dont know what to say anymore.. ohh.. well.. i guess i’ll just write again next time.

Experiencing two kinds of family

Who ever reads this might be wondering what the heck am i talking about, well let me tell you that i was able to experience two sets of families. One was my biological family and the other was with my uncle and my aunt.

I could say that my biological family was more of a typical poor family. I had a chance to live with my family back in the province and it really sucks, it sucked not because we were poor. I was ok with being poor as long as the family was together and we were helping each other out but unfortunately my father was not a help to all of us, all he did was drink alcohol and come home drunk, i never really understood the reason why he was always drinking actually as a kid i really thought that it was just normal for grown men to drink and get drunk since everyone in my father and mothers side always drink and i thought that it was just their way of having fun and enjoying the day, at least that’s what i think until dad comes home and then he screams a lot and complains a lot and hit’s the mom. I really don’t hate my father for being that way, i just hated what he has become when he’s drunk.

I was really afraid of my father when i was little probably because when he is drunk he would always noticed me and scolds me even when I’m not doing anything but as i grew older i realized that he can’t scold me anymore and he can’t hit me anymore. I wanted to do the same thing that he did to me when i was little but i really couldn’t maybe because i still have respect for him and i still owe him something since he’s still my father.

At that time my mom asked my aunt asked to keep me for a while since me and my father couldn’t get along well and he would just hit me when he is very drunk. SO when i was five i wen’t to my aunt’s house with my little sister and we stayed there, im glad my little sister was with me because i certainly didn’t want to leave her there and my father didn’t want to have a daughter because he said that daughters are just a burden to the family but i totally disagree with him.

my sister was adopted by my uncle and aunt since they didn’t have any kids at that time, they also asked me if i wanted to be adopted but i think my mom said their just going to let my sister and not me which is ok with me anyway.

My aunt used to be a helper for a US air force pilot. My uncle married my aunt after he got divorced from his ex wife. I’m really glad that my aunt was able to marry a nice guy like my uncle. My uncle also has an extra ordinary life story since he was a son of a coal miner in the US and he didn’t want to be poor forever so he went to the air force base in their town and joined the air force, since he was a smart guy the government offered him a scholarship and then they gave him a choice if he graduates he can choose to work for the air force or he can work for other companies(how come the Philippines doesn’t have that kind of offer?).

My aunts family is just like the family on 7th heaven they always say i love you and ask you how was school and i love it there but since i grew up with my biological family and it was not like that when i was with them, it was awkward since we never did that at home.

anyway I’ll just continue this at another time since I am at work right now.